| Your heart is beating out of your chest. You | | | | Third, watch for classic signs of cheating. The |
| suspect your spouse could be cheating. What | | | | questions to ask: Does he worry more about his |
| should you do? | | | | appearance than normal? Has he stopped wearing |
| Initially, you need to trust your intuition, keep your | | | | his holey underwear and socks in favor for fresh, |
| radar up and simply observe. | | | | new fancy garments? Does he hide his cell phone |
| First, start keeping a journal. Your suspicions need | | | | or password protect his computer? Does he have |
| to be documented, so that when and if | | | | to "run out" unexpectedly because he forgot |
| "evidence" shows up in the way of a bank | | | | something at work? Is he agitated if you pop in |
| statement, you will have back-up. For instance, he | | | | to see him at the office or show up somewhere |
| told you he was working late. You were doubtful. | | | | unexpectedly? Does he "plant" information about |
| When the bank statement comes in, it can be | | | | upcoming work obligations -- "Oh I have to go to |
| checked for the transactions on that night. When | | | | that overnight seminar" or alternatively, forget to |
| you check your bank statement, you should | | | | tell you until the very last minute? Does he have |
| document the follow-up either way as well. | | | | mood swings - overly nice to you (guilty) or |
| Whether you find evidence that he was out at a | | | | overly-critical? Most importantly, does your gut tell |
| bar, or you find nothing at all, write it down. When | | | | you something is wrong? |
| you are up to five entries, and have documented | | | | Fourth, enter the results of your observances into |
| the follow-up as well, you make your conclusion. | | | | your journal. You will be furthering your intuition |
| Second, "test the waters". Tell him it's time for a | | | | and deepening your conviction as you see |
| romantic getaway for just the two of you and | | | | everything written out together. |
| see how he reacts. Or bring up a news story (or | | | | Fifth, if you feel that he is cheating, it may be |
| personal story) of how someone else's spouse | | | | time to dig deeper. There are many ways to get |
| was caught cheating. Tell him how happy you are | | | | proof easily with software for computers and cell |
| that you can trust him. Look for body language. Is | | | | phones. Vehicle trackers are also very popular to |
| he squirming or trying to change the subject?. Or | | | | see if someone is really going where they say |
| is he turned toward you, looking into your eyes. | | | | they are. |
| What he says to you is important. | | | | |