| If You’re Worried Your Spouse is Cheating | | | | it’s their after-hours fun that you question, |
| – Read This Now! | | | | drive by the place they said they were going out |
| First of all, I’m sorry you have to read this. | | | | with the boys. |
| Really, I am. I know what it’s like to have a | | | | Then, study what you have. Keep a journal of |
| cheating spouse, and I know that feeling when | | | | what your spouse says, versus what you know |
| you start to look for the clues. You feel guilty | | | | to be true. If your spouse is cheating, you will |
| about being here, don’t you? You are scared | | | | soon start to find discrepancies. Little things |
| about what is coming next. | | | | won’t add up. Timelines will be off just a bit. |
| You have every right to be scared. But don’t | | | | There will be things in your list that will have no |
| let yourself feel guilty! If your spouse is cheating, | | | | ready explanation. |
| they are the ones doing something wrong, not | | | | When you start to see a pattern emerging, track |
| you. And you have every right to know what is | | | | it down. This is when you start to get the |
| happening behind your trusting back. | | | | rock-solid proof of what your spouse is doing. You |
| If you think your spouse is cheating, start out by | | | | will have to dig deeper into those phone records. |
| making it very clear why you feel that way. Make | | | | You will start to look at bank accounts, internet |
| out a list, on paper, of the reasons you feel | | | | activity, and what their friends have to say about |
| uneasy. Putting it down on paper will make it feel | | | | their weekly outings. |
| more real, and might lead you to remember other | | | | You can find out if your partner is cheating, but |
| clues that you have dismissed or ignored. | | | | you have to be methodical. Don’t take a |
| Once you’ve done that, look at the things | | | | scattered approach! You have a goal to find out |
| that bother you the most. Is it the time your | | | | what is going on behind your back, so start by |
| spouse spends on the phone with someone else? | | | | writing down the things you believe are happening. |
| Is it the fact that the long hours don’t show | | | | You can go from there and eventually, you will |
| up on the paycheck at the end of the week? | | | | have the proof you need. |
| Maybe it’s the concern about where they are | | | | Then it will be time to confront your spouse with |
| going after work – and with whom. | | | | their actions. That’s a whole new ballgame, |
| Start there. If it’s the phone calls, get a copy | | | | and it opens up a whole new set of questions. |
| of the cell phone records. If it’s the work | | | | Once you have the proof, what can you expect |
| that concerns you, study the paycheck stubs. If | | | | from the confrontation? |